My Children
In July of 1979 we had our first child,a boy, Jeremy. I was so in awe and so happy. Doug & I married 4 months later in November.Things were great for the next 3 1/2 years til I blundered and messed things up.Doug & I were split up for the next 4 months.We finally got it together discussed the mistake I had made, then came my baby girl in February of 1986, a girl Blythe. Everything was great for the 2 years after that and then Doug's blunder. His start for trouble with the law, which made things hard for having a family.We split up in 1988 and in December of 1989 from a different father I had my last child, a boy, Brandon.Doug & I went in bouts with our 2 children. Kinda like a same old story same old song and dance."I'm gonna prove you an unfit mother and take then away, so I went for soul custody,and won. I believe you have one mom and one dad and anyone who denies a parents involvements who wants to be involved, is no good in my book.Unless of coarse there are signs of abuse.
The kids choose to live with there dad,Didn't have to fight no one for Brandon as his dad never saw him but 2 times before I moved to Washington in 1998. My other 2 kids called Doug dad of coarse, and being the dad that Doug was, he was the only dad that Brandon ever knew. The 17 years Doug and I were divorced before his passing in 2006 it seemed like I was in & out of relationships,just trying to find that special someone I could grow old with. All the way to his death Doug always told me "I'll grow old with you Karen." Which he did basically. We always lived in the same towns. He followed me up to Washington where we finished off raising the kids, until he left us April 2,2006.You know even when you split up with someone, and you never live with them again, but they're the father of your children, you really don't think about one of you going first and how it will end. But felt so much pain for my children.
Friday, March 12, 2010
My Life
OK, now is the time to say a little about myself....was born in Long Beach California in 1955. We moved to Norco, California when I was 10 years old. I was in 4-H with my goats until I was 18 years old. Dad moved us from Long Beach to Norco to get us in a rural setting away from the big city in hopes to give us a more easy mellow way of life.I know it worked because had I stayed in Long Beach I believe I would have been a more aggressive person and not so much the humanitarian I am today.
I met my first husband right before my 15th birthday,we dated for three years then married right after my 18th birthday. Actually to soon for my immature mind. See I grew up slow for the fast pace of Southern California, but in my mind it wouldn't have hurt to have been a child for a while longer. My mom constantly pushing for me to be more mature like my older sister who was 3 years my senior. At any rate that marriage lasted only a year and a half, only half of the time of the courtship.I had a miscarrage and lost my 1st child at the tender age of 19. A mental and physical expeiance which had me hating God and the whole world for awhile. From that experiance I learned the God does everything for a reason. After we split up, my husband John, was giving me the "if you had that baby I wold have proved you an unfit Mother and taken it away." My reply??? "What baby? There is no baby, John." Why people have to take something devistating and try to make the pain worst it beyond me.He did several bad things to my family and me, which made me see I did the right thing by leaving him.
Yes everything happens for a reason, and in 1977 at 22 years old I hooked up with the love of my life and the father of my children Doug. We had gone to school together in Jr. high school and were re-introduced by my God-Sister Sheryl and her husband Rocky, as Sheryl & I were best friends as were Rocky & Doug. MY Godparents moved to Southern Idaho and then Sheryl & Rocky followed her folks up. Doug & I didn't have children yet and decided we didn't want to raise children in the mess that Califonia was beginning to be.We left our friends and family for a better life to start our family.Idaho life agreed with us and it was where we laid our roots.
OK, now is the time to say a little about myself....was born in Long Beach California in 1955. We moved to Norco, California when I was 10 years old. I was in 4-H with my goats until I was 18 years old. Dad moved us from Long Beach to Norco to get us in a rural setting away from the big city in hopes to give us a more easy mellow way of life.I know it worked because had I stayed in Long Beach I believe I would have been a more aggressive person and not so much the humanitarian I am today.
I met my first husband right before my 15th birthday,we dated for three years then married right after my 18th birthday. Actually to soon for my immature mind. See I grew up slow for the fast pace of Southern California, but in my mind it wouldn't have hurt to have been a child for a while longer. My mom constantly pushing for me to be more mature like my older sister who was 3 years my senior. At any rate that marriage lasted only a year and a half, only half of the time of the courtship.I had a miscarrage and lost my 1st child at the tender age of 19. A mental and physical expeiance which had me hating God and the whole world for awhile. From that experiance I learned the God does everything for a reason. After we split up, my husband John, was giving me the "if you had that baby I wold have proved you an unfit Mother and taken it away." My reply??? "What baby? There is no baby, John." Why people have to take something devistating and try to make the pain worst it beyond me.He did several bad things to my family and me, which made me see I did the right thing by leaving him.
Yes everything happens for a reason, and in 1977 at 22 years old I hooked up with the love of my life and the father of my children Doug. We had gone to school together in Jr. high school and were re-introduced by my God-Sister Sheryl and her husband Rocky, as Sheryl & I were best friends as were Rocky & Doug. MY Godparents moved to Southern Idaho and then Sheryl & Rocky followed her folks up. Doug & I didn't have children yet and decided we didn't want to raise children in the mess that Califonia was beginning to be.We left our friends and family for a better life to start our family.Idaho life agreed with us and it was where we laid our roots.
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